Lean not unto thine own understanding

Lately I've had a lot of girls express their frustrations in life (it always comes in waves): I'm not married yet, all my friends are starting to have babies, no body likes me, I'm too fat and ugly, I'm not getting anywhere, i don't even know what i want to be or do, don't even ask me what I'm gonna do after graduation... I understand because yes, for an LDS woman, marriage is very important, and believe me when i say this, i think a lot of girls feel quite lost about their future until they find their eternal companion. Career and academic goals, missions, they're all important but can be changed and adapted very rapidly with marriage. So shouldn't marriage be the goal? Or is career and gaining an education more important now? What if I never meet someone? Should i prepare for a life of singleness? The questions are endless.

I'm a woman; I share in their concern and uncertainty. We just had a stake conference focusing on the importance of marriage and dating and how that should be our focus which caused a little bit of a stir for some of my sweet sisters. I soon realized why, for me at least, i wasn't having the same bothered reaction to my obvious lack of left hand bling.

Let me just say this, I am eternally grateful for my past struggles that have required me to give up and rely on my Heavenly Father. I have learned to trust in my Heavenly Father and His plan for me. The frustration comes when I am trying to fight and put what I think's best in front of what my Father has in store for me. It doesn't work.

So with this whole marriage topic, it's such a comfort to me to know that someday i will have that opportunity. As for when it's going to occur, I'm really not "freaking out". So long as I keep myself open for the opportunity, stay close to the spirit, and keep moving forward- that time will come. I have been promised that.

Sorry if this seems like a repeat, i know i've done posts like this one. It's just been more present in my life as my roommate's rather resentful, wining and longing approach to dating and marriage has been expressed (*shake of the head* Hormones.... gotta love em).

You really can't put a price on the feeling of comfort. It's so... valuable.